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Transformation begins with changing the way you think, and removing the ”toxins” that have been preventing you from flourishing. Host Nicole L. Turner is a well-respected mindset coach, management consultant, best-selling author, and speaker. Nicole helps individuals and organizations take a proactive approach to self-improvement, which involves designing a desired future and determining the most effective ways to achieve that future state. Nicole isn‘t into the ”fluff”. Each episode will be honest and real, with one goal in mind, giving you something to think about. Mindset Coach https://www.detoxforyourlife.com Consultant https://www.nicolelturner.com/
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Sunday Mar 17, 2024
I want you to stop saying this
Sunday Mar 17, 2024
Sunday Mar 17, 2024
Stop saying, “If people say, ‘after all I’ve done for you’ that they only did for you as a transaction.”
Recognize Genuine Acts of Kindness: Discern between genuine acts of kindness and manipulative behaviors disguised as favors or transactions. True acts of kindness come from a place of genuine care and concern, rather than being used as leverage.
Communication is Key: Advocate for open and honest communication in relationships. Express your needs and expectations clearly, while also being receptive to the needs of others. Effective communication can help prevent misunderstandings and foster healthier relationships.
Value Reciprocity: Reciprocity in relationships is important. Surround yourselves with individuals who reciprocate kindness and support in a genuine manner.
Gratitude and Appreciation: Express gratitude and appreciation for the kindness and support you receive from others. Genuine expressions of gratitude can strengthen relationships and foster a sense of mutual respect and appreciation.
Self-Reflection: Reflect on your own intentions when saying, “After all I did for you.” Are you genuinely expressing hurt or frustration, or are you subtly demanding something in return?
Monday Feb 19, 2024
Don’t Hate on Someone Else’s Blessing
Monday Feb 19, 2024
Monday Feb 19, 2024
As human beings we often look at things from our perspective and don’t as often look at things from the other person’s perspective. Someone gets the job that we applied to – we’re mad about it. Someone gets the house we wanted, we’re upset about it. Someone buys the last item that was left, we’re frustrated. Someone finds the love of their life and you’re still single, and you wonder why them and not you. You see where I’m going.
It's important to cultivate a positive and supportive mindset when it comes to other people's successes and blessings. Jealousy or resentment can be counterproductive and detrimental to our own well-being. Each person's journey is unique, and what may be a blessing for someone else doesn't diminish our own potential for success and happiness.
Instead of harboring negative feelings, it can be more beneficial to focus on our own goals, celebrate our achievements, and work towards creating our own blessings. In doing so, we contribute to a healthier and more positive environment for ourselves and those around us. Remembering that life is not a zero-sum game and that there is an abundance of opportunities for everyone can help shift our perspective and foster a more supportive mindset.
Don’t hate on other people’s blessings. There’s an abundance of blessings for each and every one of us. Rather than dwelling on what others have received, let's focus on our unique journey, recognizing that success, happiness, and fulfillment are not finite resources. By celebrating the victories of those around us, we contribute to a culture of support, unity, and shared joy. So, let's continue to uplift one another, cultivate gratitude for our own blessings, and remember that there's room for everyone to thrive in this extraordinary journey called life. Thank you for tuning in to the Detox for Your Life podcast, may your path be filled with endless blessings and opportunities. I’m Nicole L. Turner, your mindset coach, helping you shift the way you think so you can change the way you live. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach me at https://www.detoxforyourlife.com/
Sunday Feb 04, 2024
Are You Good at Self-Discipline?
Sunday Feb 04, 2024
Sunday Feb 04, 2024
I read in a guide to self-discipline that One of the reasons we don't have self-discipline is because we run from the hard, uncomfortable things. We would rather do the easy, comfortable, familiar things. I am a mindset coach, helping people shift the way they think so they can change the way they live. Discipline starts with our mind – how we think. Self-discipline is about learning to control yourself so you can work towards your goals, even when no one is forcing you to.
Discipline is a crucial aspect of achieving goals and leading a successful life, but many individuals struggle with maintaining self-discipline for various reasons. Here are some common challenges and tips to improve self-discipline:
Challenges in Practicing Discipline:
- Instant Gratification Bias:
- Challenge: Humans are wired to seek immediate rewards, making it difficult to resist short-term pleasures.
- Tip: Practice delaying gratification by setting long-term goals and breaking them down into smaller, manageable tasks.
- Lack of Clear Goals:
- Challenge: Without clear objectives, individuals may lack motivation and a sense of purpose.
- Tip: Define specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals to provide clear direction.
- Poor Time Management:
- Challenge: Inefficient use of time can lead to procrastination and hinder discipline.
- Tip: Prioritize tasks, create a schedule, and break down large tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks.
- Fear of Failure:
- Challenge: The fear of failure can paralyze individuals, preventing them from taking necessary actions.
- Tip: Embrace failure as a learning opportunity and focus on the lessons gained rather than viewing it negatively.
- Lack of Consistency:
- Challenge: Inconsistency in behavior and routines can disrupt the development of discipline.
- Tip: Establish daily habits and routines to create a stable environment that supports disciplined behavior.
- External Distractions:
- Challenge: Modern life is filled with distractions, making it challenging to stay focused.
- Tip: Minimize distractions by creating a dedicated workspace, turning off notifications, and practicing mindfulness.
Remember, developing discipline is an ongoing journey that requires self-awareness, commitment, and a willingness to adapt. By addressing the challenges and implementing these tips, individuals can gradually strengthen their self-discipline and enhance their ability to achieve their goals. I’m Nicole L. Turner, your mindset coach, helping you shift the way you think so you can change the way you lived. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach me at https://www.detoxforyourlife.com/
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
Life is a Dance Between Making it Happen and Letting it Happen
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
- Making it happen: This part of the dance involves taking initiative, setting goals, making plans, and actively working towards achieving what you desire. It's about being proactive, making decisions, and putting in effort to shape your life in a deliberate way.
- Letting it happen: On the other hand, there are aspects of life that are beyond your control. This part of the dance is about being open to opportunities, embracing uncertainty, and allowing life to unfold organically. It's a recognition that not everything can be planned or controlled, and sometimes, the most meaningful experiences come from unexpected or unplanned events.
Finding the right balance between actively shaping your life and allowing things to unfold naturally requires a thoughtful approach. Here are some tips to help you navigate the dance between making it happen and letting it happen:
- Set Clear Goals: Identify your priorities and set clear, realistic goals. Having a roadmap for what you want to achieve provides direction for your actions during the "making it happen" phase.
- Take Action: Once you've set your goals, take consistent and intentional action towards them. Break down larger tasks into smaller, manageable steps. This proactive approach helps you make progress and stay focused.
- Be Flexible: Understand that not everything will go according to plan. Life is full of uncertainties, and unexpected events may occur. Embrace flexibility and adaptability, adjusting your plans when necessary.
- Practice Mindfulness: Cultivate mindfulness to be present in the moment. Mindfulness allows you to appreciate and engage with your current circumstances, fostering a sense of acceptance for the aspects of life that are beyond your control.
- Trust the Process: Trust that, even when things don't go as planned, there is a larger process at play. Sometimes, the most meaningful experiences and opportunities arise from unexpected situations.
- Learn from Challenges: View challenges as opportunities for growth. Instead of seeing obstacles as setbacks, consider them as chances to learn, adapt, and develop resilience. This mindset helps you navigate difficulties with a positive outlook.
- Listen to Your Intuition: Pay attention to your intuition and gut feelings. Sometimes, the best decisions arise from a combination of thoughtful planning and listening to your inner wisdom.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate the small victories along the way. Recognizing your achievements, no matter how modest, can boost your motivation and enhance your overall sense of accomplishment.
- Build a Support System: Surround yourself with supportive individuals who can offer guidance, encouragement, and perspective. Having a strong support system can be invaluable during both challenging and successful times.
- Practice Self-Care: Take care of your physical and mental well-being. Balancing the dance of life requires energy and resilience. Ensure you are giving yourself the care and rest needed to sustain your efforts.
I'm Nicole L. Turner, your mindset coach, helping you shift the way you think so you can check the way you live. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach out to me at https://www.detoxforyourlife.com/
Sunday Nov 26, 2023
Death Should Not Be Your Gateway to Peace
Sunday Nov 26, 2023
Sunday Nov 26, 2023
People often say, Rest in Peace, but we also deserve to LIVE in peace. Death should not be your gateway to peace. We only get one life. We owe it to ourselves to be happy, to have joy, to experience peace while we are living. Ask yourself the question, “Is there anything in my life disrupting my peace? If the answer is yes, ask yourself, “Why am I still dealing with this? If someone you loved was experiencing something that was disturbing their peace (job, relationship, friendship, etc.), would you want them to stay in that situation? Love yourself enough to say, I want better for me. I want peace for me.
We’ve all seen how someone’s life flourished once they left that job that mistreated them or left that mate that mistreated them. Some say, God was holding back the blessings until they got out of that situation. We spend way too much time on the worst-case what-if scenarios. How about you shift that to think about the best case what-if scenarios. You owe it to yourself to have joy and peace now. Death should not be your gateway to peace.
I’m Nicole L. Turner, your mindset coach, helping you shift the way you think so you can change the way you live. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach out to me at https://www.detoxforyourlife.com/
Sunday Oct 15, 2023
Take a Trip to Graceland
Sunday Oct 15, 2023
Sunday Oct 15, 2023
As you are giving yourself grace, tell yourself that you are:
- Doing your best
- You are not your mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes
- Tomorrow is a new day & as long as I am breathing, there’s always an opportunity to do something different, to grow, etc.
12 ways to give yourself grace:
- Stop trying to be perfect – allow yourself to be human
- Forgive yourself
- Change your mindset stop the negative self-talk
- Practice gratitude
- Be kind to yourself
- Let go of the past or whatever you’re holding on to
- Show yourself compassion
- Celebrate your wins, no matter how small
- Show yourself compassion
- Stop comparing your life to others.
- Be okay with saying no and setting boundaries
- Be okay with taking time for yourself
I want to encourage you to take a trip to Graceland by giving yourself the gift of grace. I am Nicole L. Turner, your Mindset Coach, helping you shift the way you think so you can change the way you live. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach out to me at https://www.detoxforyourlife.com/
Monday Oct 09, 2023
Stop Typecasting Yourself
Monday Oct 09, 2023
Monday Oct 09, 2023
A few tips to help you stop typecasting yourself:
- Get back in touch with yourself. Get in touch with who you are and who you want to be. Is there a disconnect between who you are and who you desire to be? Highlight the parts of you that you really like/ really enjoy. Identify the areas you aren’t too fond of. Identify your strengths and weaknesses.
- Don’t be afraid to take risks. EXPAND yourself. I know growth is scary. In that risk-taking, you will develop or grow parts of you that you labeled as weaknesses or aren’t too fond of. On your “to do list” for the remaining months of this year, make two goals (I don’t want to overwhelm you so two is good for now), make two goals where you take a risk – do something different, try something different.
- Build/expand your network. As much as we love the people in our lives, sometimes it’s good to get to know other people, different types of people. It exposes you to different experiences, different ways of thinking, different ways of being. These are people who may be different from your normal circle – whether that’s a friendship circle, career circle, business circle, etc. Diversify your network. Cultivate relationships with people from different backgrounds, cultures, and experiences.
- Keep learning. Keep learning about yourself. The beauty of life is that (hopefully) we grow and evolve and so do the things we like, we do, the type of people we want in our life, our boundaries, etc. Keep learning YOU. Keep learning about life. Keep learning in general.
- Include a variety of experiences. This goes back to those two goals I mentioned earlier. Try something new.
- Be patient. Along the way of self-discovery and “untypecasting” yourself, be patient with yourself. Change can be messy, uncomfortable, frustrating, etc., be patient with yourself.
Avoiding typecasting is a crucial part of life. Stop typecasting yourself. Stop applying for the same type of jobs. Stop limiting your experiences. Stop dating the same type of people. Stop having all the same type of friends. Stop always thinking the same way. Stop always doing the same habits over & over.
I’m Nicole L. Turner, your mindset coach, helping you shift the way you think so you can change the way you live. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach out to me at DetoxForYourLife.com.
Friday Sep 08, 2023
Choose Joy over Perfection
Friday Sep 08, 2023
Friday Sep 08, 2023
One of the things that robs us of joy is our desire to seek perfection/be perfect. We give gifts to other people, but how often do we give gifts to ourselves? One of the best gifts you can give yourself is the gift of joy. As I always say, you are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Do more of what brings you joy.
The definition of joy is a feeling of great pleasure and happiness. If you don’t already know, I want you to think about what gives you joy, what gives you a feeling of great pleasure. Then I want you to think about what’s preventing you from experiencing that. If you find that it’s your quest for perfection that’s preventing you from experiencing joy, choose joy over perfection.
I’m Nicole L. Turner, your mindset coach, helping you shift the way you think so you can change the way you live. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach out at detoxforyourlife.com
Sunday Aug 06, 2023
It’s Okay to Change Course
Sunday Aug 06, 2023
Sunday Aug 06, 2023
Whether you're considering a career shift, a new personal direction, etc., here are some tips to help you navigate the process:
- Self-Reflection: Before making any major changes, take time to reflect on your strengths, interests, values, and long-term goals. Understand what truly matters to you and what you want to achieve in your new direction.
- Set Clear Goals: Define specific and achievable goals for your new path. Having clear objectives will give you direction and motivation as you work towards your desired outcome.
- Research and Education: If your new course requires new skills or knowledge, invest time in researching and learning about the field. This could involve taking courses, attending workshops, or self-study.
- Networking: Build a network of contacts in your desired field. Connect with professionals, attend relevant events, and engage in online communities to gain insights and potential opportunities.
- Plan and Strategize: Create a detailed plan for your transition. Break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps. Having a structured approach can make the process less overwhelming.
- Manage Risks: Understand that change involves uncertainty. Assess the risks associated with your new direction and develop contingency plans to address potential challenges.
- Seek Guidance: Don't hesitate to seek advice from mentors, career counselors, or individuals who have successfully made similar changes. Their insights can provide valuable perspective and guidance.
- Embrace Flexibility: Be open to adjustments along the way. Your initial plan might need modifications as you gather new information and experiences.
- Practice Patience: Changing course takes time. Progress may not be linear, and setbacks are normal. Stay patient and persistent in pursuing your goals.
- Stay Positive: Maintain a positive mindset. I’m talking about that toxic positivity. I recognize that it’s not humanly possible to be positive 100% of the time. What I am saying is this, focus on your strengths and the opportunities that lie ahead because it will help you overcome challenges and stay motivated.
- Embrace Failure as Learning: Not everything will go as planned. Instead of seeing failure as a roadblock, view it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Adapt and refine your approach based on the lessons you gain.
- Take Care of Yourself: Change can be stressful, so prioritize self-care. Maintain a healthy lifestyle, engage in activities you enjoy, and seek emotional support from friends and family.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. This can boost your confidence and motivation as you progress.
- Stay Organized: Keep track of your tasks, deadlines, and progress. This helps you stay on top of your goals and prevents overwhelm.
- Visualize Success: Imagine yourself thriving in your new course of life. Visualizing success can reinforce your commitment and help you maintain focus.
Yes, change is a gradual process, and it may require taking calculated risks, but you can change course at any given time. If you are looking for a mindset coach, you can reach me at https://www.detoxforyourlife.com/
Monday Jul 17, 2023
Give Yourself as Many Chances as You Need to Get it Right
Monday Jul 17, 2023
Monday Jul 17, 2023
On your journey to giving yourself as many chances as you need to get it right:
- Start by letting go of the past. We spend way too much time staying stuck in the past and it paralyzes us. Prevents us from moving forward. The past failures or the things that didn’t go our way or work out for us in the past still affords us an opportunity to grow.
- Figure out what you do want. Piggybacking on the last one, sometimes you spend way too much time in the past that you fail to take that as an opportunity to figure out what you do want. Decide what’s meaningful to you. What feeds your soul. What brings you joy. What you’re passionate about. What makes you feel like you are walking in your purpose. If you don’t take the time to figure out what you want, you will be like the hamster on the hamster wheel – just going in circles.
- Forget about what other people are going to thin Keep doing what feels right to you. Don’t worry about what other people may think. They do what’s best for them and you must do what’s best for you.
- Focus on doing and not just thinking about doing. You don’t want to suffer from paralysis by analysis, meaning you end up not doing anything because you spent all of your time thinking about doing.
- Employ positive thinking. Negating thinking creates negative results. The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it.
- Create a daily routine. Routines are more effective at producing better results. Routines also reduce overthinking and offer a sense of control.
Don’t quit just because you didn’t get it right the first time or the second time, give yourself as many chances as you need to get it right. I’m Nicole L. Turner, your mindset coach helping you shift the way you think, so you can change the way you live. If you are in need of a mindset coach, you can reach out to me at detoxforyourlife.com.