Tell Yourself the Truth First

In Cortney S. Warren’s book, Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception, she says, ““Self-deception comes from not having enough psychological strength to admit the truth and deal with the consequences that will follow when the truth is acknowledged.” She also says, “The more we lie to ourselves about how we are contributing to our problems, the more harm we will cause to ourselves and our relationships because we will blame others for undesirable aspects of our lives instead of taking responsibility for our role.”

When you lie to yourself:

• It can cause problems in your relationships
• It could lead to you making poor decisions
• It may prevent you from reaching your full potential
• You won’t know yourself as well as you should

Understanding the point where self-deception starts is important because this will help you learn how to stop lying to yourself.  Truth be told (no pun intended) You can never truly be honest with others if you aren’t first honest with yourself.

There’s a quote that says, “Our lives improve only when we take chances and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.”