
6.8K
Downloads
113
Episodes
Transformation begins with changing the way you think, and removing the ”toxins” that have been preventing you from flourishing. Host Nicole L. Turner is a well-respected mindset coach, management consultant, best-selling author, and speaker. Nicole helps individuals and organizations take a proactive approach to self-improvement, which involves designing a desired future and determining the most effective ways to achieve that future state. Nicole isn‘t into the ”fluff”. Each episode will be honest and real, with one goal in mind, giving you something to think about. Mindset Coach https://www.detoxforyourlife.com Consultant https://www.nicolelturner.com/
Episodes

Sunday Oct 04, 2020
Stop Being Vague About What You Want
Sunday Oct 04, 2020
Sunday Oct 04, 2020
A lot of people are vague about what they want – want out of life, their career, in their relationship with others, or for the future. Being vague means lacking clarity. The first step to getting what you want out of life is to decide exactly what you want.
Where do you want to be in the future?
What do you want to experience?
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to accomplish?
What makes you happy?
If you are vague about what you want, you will find yourself with a lot of things you don’t want.
Sometimes clarity comes to us when we stop thinking. There’s a quote by Albert Einstein that I love. It says, I think 99 times and find nothing. I stop thinking, swim in silence, and the truth comes to me. –– Albert Einstein

Sunday May 03, 2020
Relational Liabilities
Sunday May 03, 2020
Sunday May 03, 2020
Ways to know they are an asset:
- You Are All Around Better Off Now Than You Were Before You Met.
- Have you learned a lot as a result of the relationship?
- You are better off financially
- You’re healthier
- Your energy is more positive
- They respect your boundaries
- They pour into you – they don’t just take, they also give
How do you know if a relationship is a liability?
- They are energy vampires – when you are in their presence, they suck the positive/good energy out of the environment
- There’s always drama with them – always drama in their life or they are always causing drama.
- Everything is always about them. They consume the conversations with their life. When you’re hanging out, it’s all about what they want, where they want to go, what they want to eat, what attention they are getting
- They are slick with the tongue – they put you down or insult you or throw shade but pass it off as just joking.
- They compete with you – yes, this also happens in romantic relationships
- They secretly copy you
- They on the low, hate on you – they are your frenemy
- They don’t respect your boundaries – often crossing them & get offended by the fact you have boundaries
- They are super needy. They get offended if you are busy, don’t answer their call when they call or respond to their message ASAP – as if you don’t have a life, you are there for their every beckoning need or call.
- You feel responsible for them. You stay in their life to be support them/have their back because their behavior is one that acts like they can’t function without your assistance.
- You’re giving more than you get
- You dread checking your phone
- You don’t like who you are when you are around them
- You know they talk shit about you. How do you know? Because when they talk to you, they talk shit about their other friends.
- You can’t depend on them
- You feel used
- You question why you are even friends with them or in a relationship with them.
- And last, you just don’t enjoy spending time with them.

Sunday Feb 16, 2020

Saturday Nov 23, 2019

Saturday Nov 09, 2019
Your Relationship with Money: Is it healthy or unhealthy
Saturday Nov 09, 2019
Saturday Nov 09, 2019
Ten signs you have an unhealthy relationship with money:
- You have a scarcity mindset – you constantly worry that there is never enough.
- Spending money pains you or makes you feel guilty.
- You spend money carelessly. You partake in frivolous spending.
- You have a lot of debt…credit card debt.
- You have money wounds – meaning that your issues with money started with your past – either in your childhood, early adulthood, or a traumatic event you experienced.
- Your aspirations – Your early experiences with money can also affect what you believe you’re capable of. Since you were denied your dreams as a child, you feel like your dreams are not something you can fulfill
- You have fears as it relates to money - fears of not having enough.
- You feel like you have to spend money to enjoy yourself.
- You constantly overspend and make excuses for your bad money habits.
- You refuse to talk about money or when you do, you talk negatively about it.
Tips to improve your relationship with money.
- Don’t let money control you.
- Debt is not normal, so stop saying things like debt is the American way
- Pay attention to your money. Know where your money is going.
- Don’t blame it for your bad mood. Money is never the reason you’re in a bad mood.
- Don’t make spending money your therapy.
- Recognize the difference between want and need. We often use the word “need” for a want.
- Recognize what type of money person you are:
- Spenders
Do you frequently make purchases that are beyond your means? Do you purchase things to make yourself happy? Is there a connection between shopping and your mood? If so, then you can consider yourself a spender. Spenders have a tendency to accumulate credit card debt because shopping to them is an addiction. Spenders spend money in hopes that material items will bring happiness or provide pain relief. - Misers
On the other end of the spectrum are the misers. Misers absolutely fear poverty and constantly worry about not having enough money to live. Misers need to feel in control and are generally uncomfortable with any sort of uncertainty. Ironically, misers fear poverty yet they practically live in it because they spend so little. - Haters
Money haters absolutely detest money and what it does to people. They eschew wealth and will often live in deprived and desolate conditions. They will purposely avoid material possessions whenever possible. - Seekers
Money seekers are the ones who obsess over becoming wealthy These people put a premium on making a fortune with the belief that it will solve all of their problems. In reality, there are usually other inadequacies in their lives that they are trying to make up for with material wealth.
- Spenders
- Identify your money story – We all have a money story. You just might not know how it started. Much of how we interact, manage and talk about money stems from lessons we learned (intentional and unintentional) as a child.
- Set your money goals. Take the time to identify your goals — and get very specific.
- Ignore the Joneses – "Don't compare yourself to others.
- Forgive yourself. you need to forgive yourself for past & current money mistakes.
Article: 31 Dumb Things That Are Keeping You From Becoming Wealthy

Friday Oct 11, 2019
The Enemy Within
Friday Oct 11, 2019
Friday Oct 11, 2019
Are you your own worst enemy? Ways to identify if you are YOUR saboteur:
- Repeat the same negative cycles over & over
- You fail to appreciate the small things
- You are your own worst critic
- You over-analyze
- You doubt yourself
- You have outdated beliefs
- You have unclear boundaries
- You make excuses
- You constantly relieve past mistakes or painful memories
- You have the wrong tribe
- You place unrealistic demands on yourself

Friday Oct 04, 2019
I Don't Want to be Happy
Friday Oct 04, 2019
Friday Oct 04, 2019
Find your joy and happiness will follow
Tips to bring more joy into your life:
- Stop seeking perfection – stop trying to achieve it and stop expecting it from others.
- Be vulnerable – vulnerability increases your self-worth, it helps you build intimacy in your relationship & if you recall in last week’s podcast, I said real intimacy is not about the physical – In to me see – it’s allowing a person to see you and you seeing that other person – not just seeing with your eyes, but with your heart, with your soul.
- Stop comparing your life to others
- Stop waiting for something big to happen – appreciate the small moments and you will find that as each small moment is stacked on top of the other, you see this tall statue – hundreds of small moments have had a BIG positive impact and you would’ve missed them looking for something big.
- Write a thank you not to yourself. You say thank you to other people, but how many times do you say thank you to yourself?
- Hit the pause button – allow your mind to become quiet.
- Practice kindness. Do a good deed – help someone else
- Live in the moment
- Embrace your inner child
- Be one with nature
- Practice gratitude

Wednesday Sep 25, 2019
Real Randomness
Wednesday Sep 25, 2019
Wednesday Sep 25, 2019
Everyone wants to be seen
It's important to stay true to your values
Use your fall/challenges for transformation
#value #challenges #seen #truetoself #selflove #transformation #transform #values #lifepurpose #fulfilled #lifegoals #relationships #communication #transparency #open #respect #perspective #honesty #curiosity #faith #empowerment #acceptance #belonging #known #identity #purpose #plan #goals #potential

Wednesday Aug 14, 2019
Half Love is not Healthy
Wednesday Aug 14, 2019
Wednesday Aug 14, 2019
The only thing worse than loving someone who doesn't love you is loving someone who loves you, but doesn't know how to show you love.
You stay and wait because you see potential, you see what’s inside, you see what could be once you shatter all the walls so they can let you in. But they won’t let you in because they don’t have room for you, they won’t let you in because that means they have to share the deepest parts of themselves and that’s not something they know how to do. When you love someone who doesn’t know how to love, you eventually forget what love is or how it feels, you begin to love poorly, selfishly, you become stingy with your heart. When you fall for someone who doesn’t know how to love, you forget that someone out there knows how, you forget that you could find someone who reinforces everything you believe about love instead of challenging it and you forget that someone out there wants to love you — not break you.
Signs of a healthy relationship.
- You admire your partner for who he or she is as a person
- Your partner is trustworthy
- Your partner makes time for you on a regular basis
- Your partner accepts responsibility for their actions
- Your partner is your biggest cheerleader
- You and your partner are on the same page in terms of your basic values and life goals
- Your partner is affectionate
- Your partner talks about your future together so you can create a shared vision of your relationship
- You each keep your own identify within the relationship
- You spend quality time together doing things that are mutually fulfilling as well as quality time apart doing what is important to you individually
- You encourage each other to grow and change. In other words, you inspire each other to be a better person.
- You and your partner feel safe communicating personal needs and wants
- You respect each other's differences even if you disagree on important issues
- You share realistic expectations for the relationship, not what you wish or fantasize it should be
- Each of you contributes your fair share to the relationship, whatever that happens to be. Each partner brings their best strengths and abilities for the benefit of the “team."

Saturday Aug 03, 2019
That Gut Feeling, is it really intuition or fear
Saturday Aug 03, 2019
Saturday Aug 03, 2019
Is it your intuition or your fears/anxiety?
- Anxiety Doesn't Let Up
- Anxiety Causes You To Worry About The Future
- Anxiety Causes Feelings Of Uncertainty
- Anxiety Interferes With Everyday Life"
- Intuition Can Be Tested & Verified
- Intuition Helps Center You
- Anxiety Is A Reaction To A Perceived Threat
- Intuition Is Accompanied By Feeling Relaxed
- Intuition Is About Focusing On The Present, Anxiety Is About Focusing On The Future
- Anxiety Is More Demanding Than Intuition