Detox For Your Life

Stop Overanalyzing It to Death

The Waiting Room

Faith Over Fear

Autumn is a Mood

Don't Let the Desire for Revenge Control You

Stop Being Vague About What You Want

A lot of people are vague about what they want – want out of life, their career, in their relationship with others, or for the future. Being vague means lacking clarity. The first step to getting what you want out of life is to decide exactly what you want.

Where do you want to be in the future?

What do you want to experience?

Who do you want to be?

What do you want to accomplish?

What makes you happy?

If you are vague about what you want, you will find yourself with a lot of things you don’t want.

Sometimes clarity comes to us when we stop thinking. There’s a quote by Albert Einstein that I love. It says, I think 99 times and find nothing. I stop thinking, swim in silence, and the truth comes to me. –– Albert Einstein

Relational Liabilities

Ways to know they are an asset:

• You Are All Around Better Off Now Than You Were Before You Met.
• Have you learned a lot as a result of the relationship?
• You are better off financially
• You’re healthier
• Your energy is more positive
• They respect your boundaries
• They pour into you – they don’t just take, they also give

How do you know if a relationship is a liability?

• They are energy vampires – when you are in their presence, they suck the positive/good energy out of the environment
• There’s always drama with them – always drama in their life or they are always causing drama.
• Everything is always about them. They consume the conversations with their life. When you’re hanging out, it’s all about what they want, where they want to go, what they want to eat, what attention they are getting
• They are slick with the tongue – they put you down or insult you or throw shade but pass it off as just joking.
• They compete with you – yes, this also happens in romantic relationships
• They secretly copy you
• They on the low, hate on you – they are your frenemy
• They don’t respect your boundaries – often crossing them & get offended by the fact you have boundaries
• They are super needy. They get offended if you are busy, don’t answer their call when they call or respond to their message ASAP – as if you don’t have a life, you are there for their every beckoning need or call.
• You feel responsible for them. You stay in their life to be support them/have their back because their behavior is one that acts like they can’t function without your assistance.
• You’re giving more than you get
• You dread checking your phone
• You don’t like who you are when you are around them
• You know they talk shit about you. How do you know? Because when they talk to you, they talk shit about their other friends.
• You can’t depend on them
• You feel used
• You question why you are even friends with them or in a relationship with them.
• And last, you just don’t enjoy spending time with them.

The Significance of the Insignificant

The Life-Changing 90 seconds

Your Relationship with Money: Is it healthy or unhealthy

Ten signs you have an unhealthy relationship with money:

1. You have a scarcity mindset – you constantly worry that there is never enough.
2. Spending money pains you or makes you feel guilty.
3. You spend money carelessly. You partake in frivolous spending.
4. You have a lot of debt…credit card debt.
5. You have money wounds – meaning that your issues with money started with your past – either in your childhood, early adulthood, or a traumatic event you experienced.
6. Your aspirations – Your early experiences with money can also affect what you believe you’re capable of. Since you were denied your dreams as a child, you feel like your dreams are not something you can fulfill
7. You have fears as it relates to money - fears of not having enough. 
8. You feel like you have to spend money to enjoy yourself.
9. You constantly overspend and make excuses for your bad money habits.
10. You refuse to talk about money or when you do, you talk negatively about it.

 Tips to improve your relationship with money.

1. Don’t let money control you. 
2. Debt is not normal, so stop saying things like debt is the American way
3. Pay attention to your money. Know where your money is going. 
4. Don’t blame it for your bad mood. Money is never the reason you’re in a bad mood.
5. Don’t make spending money your therapy. 
6. Recognize the difference between want and need. We often use the word “need” for a want.
7. Recognize what type of money person you are:
   1. Spenders
      Do you frequently make purchases that are beyond your means? Do you purchase things to make yourself happy? Is there a connection between shopping and your mood? If so, then you can consider yourself a spender. Spenders have a tendency to accumulate credit card debt because shopping to them is an addiction. Spenders spend money in hopes that material items will bring happiness or provide pain relief.
   2. Misers
      On the other end of the spectrum are the misers. Misers absolutely fear poverty and constantly worry about not having enough money to live. Misers need to feel in control and are generally uncomfortable with any sort of uncertainty. Ironically, misers fear poverty yet they practically live in it because they spend so little.
   3. Haters
      Money haters absolutely detest money and what it does to people. They eschew wealth and will often live in deprived and desolate conditions. They will purposely avoid material possessions whenever possible.
   4. Seekers
      Money seekers are the ones who obsess over becoming wealthy These people put a premium on making a fortune with the belief that it will solve all of their problems. In reality, there are usually other inadequacies in their lives that they are trying to make up for with material wealth.
8. Identify your money story – We all have a money story. You just might not know how it started. Much of how we interact, manage and talk about money stems from lessons we learned (intentional and unintentional) as a child. 
9. Set your money goals. Take the time to identify your goals — and get very specific.
10. Ignore the Joneses – "Don't compare yourself to others.

10. Forgive yourself. you need to forgive yourself for past & current money mistakes. 

Article: 31 Dumb Things That Are Keeping You From Becoming Wealthy

https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/personalfinance/31-dumb-things-that-are-keeping-you-from-becoming-wealthy